I Feel Bad About My Neck, and Other Thoughts on Being A Woman

I Feel Bad About My Neck, and Other Thoughts on Being A Woman

Book - 2006
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With her disarming, intimate, completely accessible voice, and dry sense of humor, Nora Ephron shares with us her ups and downs in I Feel Bad About My Neck, a candid, hilarious look at women who are getting older and dealing with the tribulations of maintenance, menopause, empty nests, and life itself.

The woman who brought us When Harry Met Sally . . . , Sleepless in Seattle, You've Got Mail, and Bewitched, and the author of best sellers Heartburn, Scribble Scribble, and Crazy Salad, discusses everything--from how much she hates her purse to how much time she spends attempting to stop the clock: the hair dye, the treadmill, the lotions and creams that promise to slow the aging process but never do. Oh, and she can't stand the way her neck looks. But her dermatologist tells her there's no quick fix for that.

Ephron chronicles her life as an obsessed cook, passionate city dweller, and hapless parent. She recounts her anything-but-glamorous days as a White House intern during the JFK years ("I am probably the only young woman who ever worked in the Kennedy White House that the President did not make a pass at") and shares how she fell in and out of love with Bill Clinton--from a distance, of course. But mostly she speaks frankly and uproariously about life as a woman of a certain age.

Utterly courageous, wickedly funny, and unexpectedly moving in its truth telling, I Feel Bad About My Neck is a book of wisdom, advice, and laugh-out-loud moments, a scrumptious, irresistible treat.
Publisher: New York : Alfred A. Knopf, 2006
ISBN: 9780307264558
Characteristics: 137 p


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Sep 02, 2020

I thought this was interesting and different, but it started to drone about unimportant topics. It has a wide variance of topics but led directly to the downside of trying to perfect them.

JCLStefanieE Apr 07, 2020

A quick nostalgic read about the New York City of years gone by and what it was like for a woman of the time (1960s). While I enjoyed this read and giggled at about half the reading time, it is just as serious at times with some hard truths about our society as a whole.

IndyPL_CarriG Jan 08, 2020

This is a very funny book of autobiographical essays by comedy legend Nora Ephron. She talks about the foibles of aging as a well-heeled Manhattan woman in a way that is self-deprecating and clever. That being said, I didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would. Maybe it's because I read it because it was on the Guardian's 100 best books of the 21st century list, so I thought it would be ground-breaking? But I feel like I've read better takes on the radical self-honesty essays - like Jenny Lawson's Let's Pretend this Never Happened, Phoebe Robinson's You Can't Touch my Hair, and David Sedaris' everything he's ever written. All of those I found more relatable than Ephron's making fun of her friends for spending tens of thousands of dollars on handbags, complaining about having to blow-dry her own hair while on vacation, and worrying over whether or not the famous food critics she wanted to be friends with would like her recipes.

Perhaps if I were in a position to write a best-of list for the Guardian I would also be in a position to find Ephron's struggles more endearing. But I am decidedly middle-class in middle-America and I will never care enough about my hair to get it professionally done twice a week. Relatability aside - this book is a funny and fast read, if you aren't sitting there trying to understand why it was included on this list the whole time you are reading it like I was. There were some essays that were better than others. The book ends stronger than it begins, so if you are a fan of her other work give it a shot!

Groszerita May 26, 2019

I re-read this and found it not as funny as I initially thought. I do like Nora Ephron and I find her writings - specifically her screen writings really insightful and realistic. However, reading this book has made me realize that it's just too much.. too much complaining of things.

Jun 22, 2018

Overall the book was interesting. It's told in a very smart, funny, jewish comedic way focusing on parts of life, that are a journey for all of us, especially as aging women.
It's not literature and not meant to be, but, it has some worthwhile insights.
Nora was a really bright lady who accomplished a great deal in her life.

Jul 27, 2017

Parts of this book were interesting, other parts dull, and other parts insightful. I believe I read this book at the wrong age. I found it difficult to relate to and some of the advice did not feel relevant to my generation. I enjoy Nora Ephron's movies but some of her essays were ranty. So it was okay, because there were some lines I wanted to underline but most of it was forgettable and a drag to get through.

ArapahoeAnna Sep 14, 2016

Filled with quotable wisdom and over the top humor. Ever wondered, "Who is Nora Ephron?", this is a good place to start. Recommend listening to the audiobook read by Ephron to get the timing of her very funny delivery.

WVMLBookClubTitles Aug 23, 2014

Ephron takes stock – her career (including cooking for Craig Claiborne), her marriages (there were three), the Apthorp (an apartment on the Upper West Side of Manhattan she fell in love with for a time), her purse, and of course, her aging body. She will make you laugh, and feel good about life.

Jul 14, 2014

This was a good read for when you want to relax and not think too much. Very light, I enjoyed it.

Wonderful vignette of thoughts on aging women by someone who is going through it with a sense of humour and perspective. I loved it and had to keep some quotes for my favorite ides log.

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Aug 07, 2011

- one of my books on tape that goes walking with me. Nice and light but with crisp writing and some funny bits. A bit trying to hard to be a witty, fashionable New Yorker but I still liked it. 7/10

Feb 25, 2011

A candid, hilarious look at women who are getting older and dealing with the tribulations of mainenance, menopause, empty nests and life itself. She speaks frankly and uproariously about life as a woman of a certain age.


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JCLStefanieE Apr 07, 2020

“The neck is a dead giveaway. Our faces are lies and our necks are the truth. You have to cut open a redwood tree to see how old it is, but you wouldn’t have to if it had a neck.” (pg. 5)

JCLStefanieE Apr 07, 2020

“Reading is escape, and the opposite of escape; it’s a way to make contact with reality after a day of making things up, and it’s a way of making contact with someone else’s imagination after a day that’s all too real. Reading is grist. Reading is bliss.” (pg. 52)

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